Mindset Shift to Overcome Self Doubt

Seeing someone’s eyes light up as they experience a mindset shift in real time is exhilarating. I’ve seen that light many times, knowing that they’re moving towards their own greatness.

For over 15 years, I’ve enjoyed giving face to face coaching on public speaking performance. I observe their subtle body language cues in the physical NLP techniques and performance exercises that accelerate their growth.

When the Covid-19 lockdown happened, I was uncertain and anxious about how to proceed. Since I couldn’t give face to face coaching, I couldn’t observe their full body language and energy shifts on the tiny computer screen and couldn’t fully guide them through their physical exercises. I couldn’t figure out what to do.

So, I reacted by putting everything on hold. I sat around worrying about it.

Sure, I’ve read books and quotes that say worrying doesn’t help. Yet there I was stewing in my special sauce of worry. I didn’t know what to do and got increasingly frustrated with my inaction.


As I was watering my plants one morning, I felt great annoyance that my extreme feelings of self-doubt and fear continued to come up. These feelings were paralyzing me and wasting time. I’ve always prided myself on facing huge challenges fearlessly. Then a moment of self-awareness came to me.

Getting annoyed didn’t help. Instead, being kind, patient and loving with myself would ease me out of it.

In the mornings, I’d walk on the beach to ground myself and focused on breathing techniques. I ate more dark chocolates every day. I lit scented candles. I did some deep work to change my state. I immersed myself in more personal development enrichment. I set daily intentions. All that helped to jolt me out of the pattern of waking up and feeling worried.

I began to get clarity on why I responded with such anxiety.

An Epiphany

This time was a very different kind of challenge. The world had fundamentally changed and I knew it was never going to be the same again. That meant I had to pivot many things about myself, my habits, my thought processes and my emotional state. I didn’t just need to get out of my comfort zone, I had to change myself.

That meant, I had to figure out new ways of doing by seeing it from a different angle. I felt my eyes light up as I got a mindset shift and with it, a renewed energy.

I started virtual coaching and quickly developed my style of helping people get performance breakthroughs, even without big physical movements. It turned out to be even better as I can conduct sessions for people from the US, Europe and Australia, with much success.

Online, I can still see their eyes light up from a mindset shift.

This was another reminder for me on how intense challenges are a massive opportunity to grow more resilient and resourceful. With kind self-awareness, determination, resourcefulness and hard work, there is always a way.